The fear of disappointing people

The fear I’ve worked hardest to overcome isn’t spiders, heights, or public speaking.

It’s disappointing people.

For years, I thought being a good person meant saying yes whenever possible.

Helping.

Showing up.

Taking on one more thing.

Then another.

And another.

The problem is that eventually you discover something important.

If you try to keep everybody happy all the time, you usually end up exhausting yourself.

The strange thing is that most people survive being told “no” far better than we imagine they will.

What took me years to learn was that setting a boundary isn’t the same as being selfish.

Sometimes it’s simply being honest.

Do I still dislike disappointing people?

Of course.

But these days I’m much less afraid of it.

Because I’ve learned that people who genuinely care about you will usually understand.

And those who don’t were never really asking for your wellbeing in the first place.

Stay fabulous,
Luce 💋

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• Lucy ”Luce” Beaumont