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What’s the best piece of advice you’ve ever received?

The best piece of advice I ever received? It wasn’t wrapped in a bow or whispered like a secret spell. It came casually, over tea, from a woman who wore her wisdom like pearls and always smelled faintly of bergamot. She leaned in, tilted her head, and simply said:

“Decide what you won’t do.”

Darling, it stopped me in my tracks.

At first, I thought she meant the obvious things: say no to bad dates, watery coffee, and events where the conversation is as flat as day-old champagne. And yes, that’s a start. But what she really handed me was a crown jewel: the freedom to design my life not by what I stuffed into it — but by what I carefully left out.

It made space for the right yes.
When you’re not saying yes to every lukewarm invitation, you finally notice the doors worth walking through. Suddenly, dinners with friends sparkle brighter, projects actually sing, and mornings feel less like triage and more like possibility.

It preserved my sparkle.
Darling, exhaustion is not glamorous. Boundaries are. They’re like the sleep mask of the soul — keeping your radiance intact so you can show up dazzling instead of drained.

It turned habits into choices.
I stopped scrolling mindlessly. I stopped saying yes to “just because.” Instead, I picked things like fresh flowers on the table, handwritten notes, and evenings that end with candlelight instead of complaints.

It made me kinder — to myself, and to others.
Here’s the secret: people don’t actually want your endless yes. They want your full-hearted presence. And you can’t give that if you’ve already promised yourself away.

So now, whenever I’m tempted to overfill, overcommit, or overplease, I reach for that advice like red lipstick. Because lipstick doesn’t make you someone else. It reminds you of who you are — bold, luminous, and entirely in charge of your own reflection.

“Decide what you won’t do.” It’s not just advice, darling. It’s liberation with a little shimmer on top.

And you? What dazzling wisdom has someone slipped into your pocket that still sparkles today?

Stay fabulous,
Luce 💋